Gabbing with grunt: Is there a perfect time to be single?


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Life in your twenties is magical; you can be studying for your Masters while drinking chocolate milk out of a Superman cup. People make excuses for you if you were out all night because obviously you don’t know any better. And all around you, your high school classmates are getting married and having babies, not necessarily in that order.

Old people (and advisors) like to bombard you with questions about your future; sometimes it’d be easier to climb up and out of a well than give them an actual answer.

Somehow, between going to college and working X-many jobs, people in their twenties are trying to squeeze dating onto their list.

Not since the days of binge-watching Sex and the City have I seen a rom-com as centralized around dating as How to be Single. This movie hit theaters on February 12th, just in time to give all the single ladies something to entertain themselves with on Valentine’s Day.

How to be Single takes place in the Big Apple (shout out to Carrie Bradshaw), and loosely follows the lives of six single people, and Alice. Played by Fifty Shades of Grey star, Dakota Johnson, Alice no longer thinks she wants to be in a relationship but doesn’t know exactly how to survive completely on her own either.

With the help of Rebel Wilson as Robin, her newfound co-worker, and Anders Holm as Tom, a sexy bartender, Alice discovers the day-to-day world of aliens on planet single.

This film was a prime advocate for the cliché “you have to love yourself first before you can ever truly love anybody else;” although, it did raise the questions “what is my drink number?” and “does the Pedialyte trick really work?”

Alice’s testament to all single-shamers out there was pure gold: “The thing about being single is, you should cherish it.”

For a percentage of students at BHC, you are at a point in your life where you can be familiarizing yourself more about the “me” instead of “we.”

I took a different stab at the Gabbing with Grunt in this issue because I found that fewer people were willing to open up about their personal relationships, and that’s more than okay. The wounds of the heart take the longest to heal.

But inspiration struck me while watching this movie, and I felt that a traditional movie review would not do it justice.  Being single gives you an opportunity to focus on what you want to do, instead of constantly trying to appease the other person. And let’s face it, it’s not like you need your parent to sign a permission slip.

With spring break rapidly approaching, you have an opportunity to take a trip, start up a new hobby, or even read that book that’s been collecting dust on your shelf. You may just find that if you board that new rollercoaster, there’ll be someone equally as eager for a change in the seat beside you.